What Is Truth?

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Truth is a funny thing.

It seems to be as malleable as plasticine, able to be bent and twisted into any shape we require. What is true one day can be found in the bottom of the trash bin the next. Truths we’ve held dear and built lives upon can come tumbling down like a house of cards with a mere puff of wind. A truth that seems as solid as rock can turn to dust beneath our feet.

So, how do we know what’s true and what’s not?

Quite often we believe something is “true” simply because it is convenient to do so. This “truth” fits our agenda and serves us in some way. It aligns with our story about ourselves and about others. It matches up with what we expect from ourselves or others.

We literally pick and choose our truths, keeping what fits and doubting or dismissing what doesn’t. Continue reading

The World Is Full Of People Who Will Tell You That You Can’t….

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I once found myself, through no fault of my own, in the way of a giant corporate organisation.

They told me to run.

I refused.

They were so big and powerful that they knew they could intimidate and bully – and get away with it.

They told me to give in or they would crush me like a walnut.

I said no, I was prepared to fight them.

They laughed and threatened to destroy me.

 

I sought help from a lawyer.

He laughed too, told me I was insane, charged me for the advice and went sailing….

 

I went searching. Everyone told me the same thing – give in, you can’t win.

I had to make a decision – to believe the “truth” that everyone knew as fact or to believe that I could do this.

One choice would make me a victim and the other would honour my integrity.

There was only one option for me.

 

I stood in front of them and called their bluff.

When they realised that I was serious they became irritated and began to push and shove.

The harder they pushed the firmer I stood.

Was I willing to lose everything I had? they shouted angrily.

You bet, I replied.

I was.

 

I kept searching and, with help, found the right people.

They were at the top of their field. I would have to borrow (lots) to pay their bill.

They heard me and believed in me.

I hired them.

 

The bully was most annoyed and very surprised. It brought in the big guns. It had to be very sure of itself now. I had become more than a simple irritation.

It offered a deal- the chance to walk away with something rather than risk it all.

I’ll take the risk, I said.

At the courtroom door they towered over me and said:

You may win the battle but you’ll never win the war….

 

I won the war.

 

The world is full of people who will tell you that you can’t.

They are wrong……

When you believe in yourself anything is possible.

 

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Metal Man

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Last week I ventured bravely into “Men’s Territory.”

I found a space in the car park between all of the trucks and tradesmen’s utes and stepped inside.

Not simply a hardware store – no this was hardcore – “Metal World”…galvanized steel, corrugated iron, grinding and cutting as far as the eye could see.

I stood at the lonely counter trying for the umpteenth time to make sense of the long list my builder had so patiently explained- it had to be spot on:

2”x1”x1.6mmx 1.8m of RHS

30x30x2.0mmx.08m of RHS

10x50mm Steel Hexhead Fasteners…..etc…etc…etc…

Blah, blah…um, yeah, whatever…

A giant appeared. He must have been two metres tall and was the size of a small army tank. He wore steel-capped boots, a hard-hat and huge leather gloves. He looked like he was going to use my bones to bake his bread…

“What can I do for you?” he asked.

“Umm….I need some…ummmm…”

I began my faltering, stop/start journey through my page of gibberish.

When I had finally finished I looked up in hopeful expectation.

Metal Man just looked at me.

My mind began to panic and fill in the silent blanks:

“Did I get it wrong?

Is it that apparent that I have no idea what I’m talking about?

Am I in the wrong place? Maybe they don’t even sell OHS or whatever the hell it is here….”

“Have you just had a massage?” the giant suddenly asked.

I looked at him in surprise.

“It’s just that I can smell the green oil. I use it when I do massages….”

“Uh…right…”

My mind was now whizzing all over the place trying to imagine this man mountain’s hands doing gentle massages- he could pick me up with just one of them!

“I notice you’re wearing chakra colours,” he continued, “I do reiki and aromatherapy and ear-candling as well and….” He launched into a knowledgeable spiel about alternative therapies.

Twenty minutes later and I had all of my steel supplies and a business card from my new friend… He shook my hand …..and his were as soft and gentle as a child’s….

It’s funny how we make assumptions, even when we think we’re being mindful.
I love it when my assumptions take a shake-up and I get to remember that things are not necessarily what they appear to be.

It’s a good reminder that what you “see” is not necessarily what you get!

Making A List, And Checkin’ It Twice….

Well, as the year draws to a close I’ve taken some time to reflect on these past 12 months. I wrote myself out a few lists:

A gratitude list of all the wonderful things from 2012- good things that happened, new learnings I’ve had, the wonderful people I’ve encountered, the new memories I’ve collected and the positive choices I’ve made. It was a big list!!

I also wrote a list of things I’d like to leave behind old patterns and behaviours that I’ve recognised and that don’t serve me well, old emotions that are past their use-by-date and even some old “truths” that I discovered were untrue. ( Like how heavy workbenches are….. (See Duh) :)

I had a lovely time ripping that page into shreds!

Finally I wrote a list of what I’m looking forward to in 2013- (not “New Year’s Resolutions” which are generally a list of unrealistic “wishes” that we fail to follow through with and then beat ourselves up about!) – but things that I really want to do or have and that I fully believe are possible- (even though I’m not entirely sure how yet…!) I know that they will happen because I’ve already begun putting the time and energy into making them happen and I’m willing to follow through with that.

 

In reflecting I also had the realisation that I’ve learned more in the past 10 years of my life than I did in all those decades before- (Yep, just call me Moses!)

 

Thought I might share some of my “insights” with you:

 

  • I learned that a lot of what I believed to be true about the world, about others and about myself was wrong. That many of the “truths” about life, the universe and everything are concoctions designed by others to keep us in our place- to keep us mediocre and happy with being mediocre!

 

  •  I learned that the world doesn’t change, we do. The world simply is- it’s how we choose to see it that makes the difference.

 

  • I learned that change is the natural order of things- and that if we are willing to accept that, change will often take itself, and us, in the right direction.

 

  • I learned that “thinking” too much keeps us from truly experiencing life. That real living involves our head and our heart. That real living involves “feeling” -the good and the bad. That the best “thinking” involves imagination, not logic.

 

  •  I learned to live the concept of YOLO (You Only Live Once) more fully. To take more risks and let go of concerns about what others may think; to be prepared to leave safety and security behind, to leap into the unknown and to be prepared to “fail”.

 

  • I learned to stop and be grateful. To realise that I already have all that I need and always will have…and to acknowledge that.

 

  •  I learned to remember the joy of play. To walk barefoot, to explore, to nurture my curiosity and to take delight in the simple things. To also remember that we already know all of the important stuff- we’ve just been “educated” away from it.

 

  • I learned that I am much more than my job, my behaviours, my body, my thoughts, my emotions or my past. I am much, much more than that….

 

I am very excited about 2013 and would like to wish you all a Happy and Abundant New Year!! Thanks so much for dropping in for a read and for your support.

Thank you,

Telene xNew Year 2013