What If That Challenge Is Just What You Need?

What if everything that happened in your life- the good and the bad- was a gift? A wrapped gift created and packaged especially for you, individually tailored to meet your needs and to give to you what you most need in this lifetime?

Maybe the gift was a learning, a new awareness.

Maybe it was the opportunity to let something go in order to allow space for something new to bloom and flourish.

Maybe it was a possibility, a chance to step through a door you didn’t even know existed.

Perhaps it was the chance to resolve an old issue, to finally heal an old wound.

Or maybe it was a reminder, a chance to see with fresh eyes and remember what’s really important in life.

It may have been an opportunity to experience something new.

Or maybe the chance for you to discover something important. A hidden resource you didn’t even know was there. Inner strength, courage or compassion perhaps? Something that had been waiting a long time to see the light of day. Continue reading

As Kooky As Gwyneth…and Loving It!

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You know those kooky people I used to laugh at?

Those airy fairy-types who used words like energy and intuition and who planted by the moon cycles and talked to their plants?

 

Well I recently realised that I’ve become one of them.

It happened when I came across a scathing newspaper article about Gwyneth Paltrow. The full two-page character assassination was based around providing proof of Gwyneth’s supposed descent into nuttiness.

As I read through all of the “evidence” proving how unbalanced and wacky she is, I realised I was in serious trouble. Gwyneth’s outrageous list of ideas about health, nutrition and happiness all sounded perfectly reasonable to me, or, at the very least, something to consider….

 

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Suck It Up, Buttercup…

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I’ve been uncomfortable lately- very uncomfortable…..

I remember a time when that would have caused me distress- now I am quite comfortable with it-(now there’s a paradox!) It can even give me a bit of an excited buzz.

Can you remember a time when you felt really uncomfortable?

It’s quite likely (if it wasn’t a time when you were wearing a too-tight pair of undies..) that you were probably doing something that pushed you out of your comfort zone. Now that it’s all done and dusted, you can possibly look back at that time and acknowledge something positive or something useful that came from it….no matter how difficult and uncomfortable it seemed at the time. It may have been uncomfortable in a physical sense, in  an emotional situation or a social encounter. It may have been due to an intellectual challenge or something that you felt was outside of your skills and capabilities or your capacity to cope. It felt uncomfortable…

Remember a time when you learned something big, did something challenging, experienced something completely new, put yourself in a new situation, gathered up your courage to try something or did something you hadn’t done before? It is highly likely that it involved some level of discomfort- maybe quite a lot of it.

The truth is that if we stay comfortable we don’t grow.

I’m creating some massive changes at present, on lots of levels and in lots of areas of my life. It’s requiring a fair deal of effort, lots of difficult decisions, heaps of courage and a fair amount of risk.

That doesn’t always feel comfortable….and that’s okay!

I have learned to link discomfort with growth and the expansion of my world. I realise that it is temporary and that in experiencing it I will come out with a new understanding or resource that I didn’t have before- so for me it will be worth it. (Even if the learning is “I won’t do that again!!”)

One of the things that I notice constantly is how unwilling human beings are to experience discomfort of any kind. In fact, people will go to extraordinary lengths to avoid it at all cost. They build their lives around avoiding it: especially if it involves other people…

To grow and progress we need to be willing to face the uncomfortable questions, the assumptions and judgments of others. We need to be willing to be upfront and honest despite the fact that we may not be liked for doing so. We need to risk conflict instead of running from it. We need to be willing to “have our feelings hurt” or to be told “No!”….

The irony of course is that in running from discomfort we actually create a toxic pool of it that we immerse ourselves in….we never find the courage to step through it and into growth. Sure it may not always be pleasant but that’s okay!

Listen to the people around you- too many seem to have the same encyclopaedia of excuses- “Too hot/ too cold/ too far/ too much effort/ too dirty/ too inconvenient/ too much trouble/ too hard/ may upset someone…….”

They give it labels like “anxiety” or “Insert your own latest trendy word :) disorder” and treat it with drugs and a myriad of therapies.

They complain endlessly about being stuck, overweight, unhealthy, unhappy, bored and miserable.

They whinge, moan and complain endlessly about never reaching their full potential.

They want a “quick fix”, someone to show them how and someone else to do it for them.

They want it all to change but they’re not willing to actually do anything….

In the end, it’s often all the same thing- a plain old unwillingness to experience discomfort.

So ,how uncomfortable are you willing to get?

Just askin’…. :)

Knowing vs. Doing

All right, I’m going to get really personal and vulnerable today…

Anyone who knows me will tell you that I have been locked in a passionate love affair for many years……

with “learning.”

I love to learn new things. I devour books and attend courses. I am always looking for new things, the unusual and the unfamiliar. When I find something interesting I have a curiosity and a passion to know more. Let’s face it, I am hooked, I am addicted. I can stand before you now, look you squarely in the face and admit it- I am a serial learner…

“What’s wrong with that?”,  you may well ask. Well, it has its good points and its bad ones. On the good side, my world continues to grow and expand and so do I. It keeps the neural pathways in my brain plastic and malleable. It allows me to embrace new ideas and to remain flexible in my thinking.(Well mostly…) And it gives me passion and drive.

On the negative side, it can become a bit of an excuse that feeds my self-doubt. You know, the old “I’m not quite ready yet…” excuse. In other words I get into a cycle that involves more “knowing” than “doing”….

The old “I’ll be ready when I know just a bit more about….then I’ll be able to…”

The trouble is, I get into a cycle of never actually starting anything because I just have to know a little more first…. So, “learning more” actually becomes part of the procrastination process, a big fat excuse about why have I actually haven’t started yet.

 

“To know and not to do, is not to know.”

(Chinese proverb)

 

So, that’s part of the reason why I started this website.

To stop simply just knowing and to start some actual doing.

To put my money where my mouth is, so to speak!

(Whoa, how’s that for an unconscious link- I have just phoned up and booked in with the dentist-finally!)

So here’s a challenge for you: what’s something you’ve been putting off starting or making big fat excuses about? Come on, be honest-what’s that really scary thing you’ve been putting off and putting off….. Yep, that’s the one!

So…..

Why are you still sitting here? Get off your bum and go do it!! :)