Listen Up! I’m Busy Telling You What I Most Need To Hear…

The Expert

The Expert

 

Have you ever taken the time to listen to the words that come out of your own mouth?

The advice you’re always giving others?

The pearls of wisdom that fall from your lips to be eagerly seized and added to someone else’s jewel collection and treasured forever?

 

How much of it did you actually hear?

 

I’ve spent years handing out “good” advice to others. (Sincere apologies to those who received some they didn’t actually ask for!)

Shortly after I entered the therapy field I realised something important:

The suggestions I was handing out to others at any given time, were exactly the suggestions I needed to be hearing myself. Continue reading

Making A List, And Checkin’ It Twice….

Well, as the year draws to a close I’ve taken some time to reflect on these past 12 months. I wrote myself out a few lists:

A gratitude list of all the wonderful things from 2012- good things that happened, new learnings I’ve had, the wonderful people I’ve encountered, the new memories I’ve collected and the positive choices I’ve made. It was a big list!!

I also wrote a list of things I’d like to leave behind old patterns and behaviours that I’ve recognised and that don’t serve me well, old emotions that are past their use-by-date and even some old “truths” that I discovered were untrue. ( Like how heavy workbenches are….. (See Duh) :)

I had a lovely time ripping that page into shreds!

Finally I wrote a list of what I’m looking forward to in 2013- (not “New Year’s Resolutions” which are generally a list of unrealistic “wishes” that we fail to follow through with and then beat ourselves up about!) – but things that I really want to do or have and that I fully believe are possible- (even though I’m not entirely sure how yet…!) I know that they will happen because I’ve already begun putting the time and energy into making them happen and I’m willing to follow through with that.

 

In reflecting I also had the realisation that I’ve learned more in the past 10 years of my life than I did in all those decades before- (Yep, just call me Moses!)

 

Thought I might share some of my “insights” with you:

 

  • I learned that a lot of what I believed to be true about the world, about others and about myself was wrong. That many of the “truths” about life, the universe and everything are concoctions designed by others to keep us in our place- to keep us mediocre and happy with being mediocre!

 

  •  I learned that the world doesn’t change, we do. The world simply is- it’s how we choose to see it that makes the difference.

 

  • I learned that change is the natural order of things- and that if we are willing to accept that, change will often take itself, and us, in the right direction.

 

  • I learned that “thinking” too much keeps us from truly experiencing life. That real living involves our head and our heart. That real living involves “feeling” -the good and the bad. That the best “thinking” involves imagination, not logic.

 

  •  I learned to live the concept of YOLO (You Only Live Once) more fully. To take more risks and let go of concerns about what others may think; to be prepared to leave safety and security behind, to leap into the unknown and to be prepared to “fail”.

 

  • I learned to stop and be grateful. To realise that I already have all that I need and always will have…and to acknowledge that.

 

  •  I learned to remember the joy of play. To walk barefoot, to explore, to nurture my curiosity and to take delight in the simple things. To also remember that we already know all of the important stuff- we’ve just been “educated” away from it.

 

  • I learned that I am much more than my job, my behaviours, my body, my thoughts, my emotions or my past. I am much, much more than that….

 

I am very excited about 2013 and would like to wish you all a Happy and Abundant New Year!! Thanks so much for dropping in for a read and for your support.

Thank you,

Telene xNew Year 2013